What is the first thing that comes to mind when you meet your own eyes in the mirror? 

What springs to the forefront when someone compliments or critiques you? Do you feel automatically inclined to combat any compliment? Do you accept criticism without losing your shine? 

Your story is the way you see yourself when you look in the mirror. It is the way you feel walking down the street. 

Every day is not the same, of course — you may wake up feeling fiery on Tuesday, and off-kilter Wednesday. That is the natural ebb and flow of life. 

But the story you tell yourself often comes down to this question: how often, or to what extent, do you let the outer world affect your inner peace? 

Now, I’m not saying that changing the way you talk to yourself is a simple feat, by any means. Rewriting and rewiring the blueprint of your brain can take quite a bit of elbow grease. It is not something that everyone is willing to do. 

It can be all too easy to allow the projections of others to impact your own thoughts. And it can prove even more effortless to let those thoughts that do not serve you, run rampant throughout the course of your life. That is how generational patterns persist. 

We all have moments when we allow ourselves to latch onto whatever holds us back. But your power lies in how you move forward from those moments of struggle or despair. 

Approaching the Alteration of Inner Dialogue

While we may not all have a clear inner dialogue, we often communicate with ourselves in a different way than we communicate with family, friends, or peers. However, the way you communicate with yourself can be highlighted by how you communicate with others.

The way you talk to yourself could be an outcome of how you were spoken to growing up. Or it can be dismantled by an emotionally abusive partner. While some of that communication can be positive, it is the negative reinforcements that greatly impact your mental health. 

As you grow older, it is possible to make edits and revise the way you think. But it takes a bit of allowance from yourself to really alter your inner dialogue. 

Where the energy goes, energy flows, as some say. You know what you are capable of more than anyone else. You are also the main person responsible for what you actually achieve in this life. You can’t keep letting your inner bully win if you really want to be your best self.

If you feel insecure, if you are unsure of the unique gifts that you offer, or you lack inspiration — the person you know you can be is just on the other side of the door. 

You don’t have to knock first in order to open the door to change.

You may be surprised with what waits for you on the other side. But keep in mind, you may have to conquer some inner demons in order to experience the beautiful view. 

How do you do that?

Stepping up to Change

Change is initiated by simple acts. Like, implementing something new in your morning routine or taking yourself on a solo adventure. For you, that could look like drinking more water, lessening your caffeine intake, or taking five minutes to meditate each day. 

True change can take a combination of efforts. Eating healthy, exercising more, confiding in a journal — I’m sure you’ve heard it all before. But there’s a reason for it. Your mind, body, and soul all play a role in how you feel day to day. 

The union of all those small changes allows your power to level up. 

You are driven to new heights once you can move past initiating habitual changes, and you start to filter out the nagging thoughts on the back-burner of your mind.

True change on a mental, spiritual, and physical level does not happen overnight, or even in a few weeks. While there are some instances that can cause you to change your opinion on something in a matter of minutes, what I’m talking about is rewriting the way you process information. 

Recognize the roadblocks. Why are those roadblocks there to begin with?

Look within and consider: where does the negative self-talk stem from? In order to truly overcome what keeps you from being your best self, it can prove beneficial to identify why you feel a certain way about yourself. Cue the shadow work. 

Rather than place a band-aid to cover up the pain points, consider what could be the root of the problem. You may not be able to identify it overnight. But the more you wonder why, the more you can maintain a grip on situations that might negatively sway you, and prevent them from affecting you in the same way as before. 

Overcoming the Insecurity That Blocks You

If you often feel insecure, and you have a hard time seeing the unique gifts you offer, please know that the feeling can be temporary or chronic, depending on you. It is more than possible to upend your insecurities. But that may require you to take a stab at trying new things.

Start by trying something that you have always wanted to do. Try out those things that brought up fear when you initially thought of doing them.

Overcoming what blocks you from change can take incorporating new forms of self-care and approaching your fears head-on. 

I’d like to offer you some of the ways that have personally helped me:

• Writing, speaking, and listening to positive affirmations 
• Keeping a gratitude journal 
• Yoga and meditation (You can’t go wrong with the Find What Feels Good mindset)
• Creating a vision board of what your best life would look like (What does your ideal life look like? What kind of future do you want to create?)
• Going on solo adventures (Where can you go to feel refreshed and/or inspired?)

Becoming Your Best Self

If you are reading this, you are already on the brink of overcoming what blocks you from being your best self. You are in the midst of massive change, abandoning old ways of being, so you can fully recognize your gifts and share them with others. 

You are capable of accomplishing whatever you set your mind to. While there may be pain in the past that needs mending to, you have all the power you need to take control of your story. Do not worry about what you cannot control. Focus on what your gut knows to be true. Feed your gut with nourishing love and take back your power. 

Remember, all you need to do is take the first step, and then another. Only you can write your own story. What does your ideal life look like, anyway?

What is your story?

It’s really not as difficult as it seems to change the way you think about yourself, and the way you view yourself within the world. 

One step, one breath, one day at a time. 

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